Anal sex is complicated, messy, and can be very painful. It surprises me somewhat to know that porn is making the ass the new vagina and creating a normalcy around it, like this is everyday sex. I've also heard men talking about anal sex as a conquest, and turning women into wanting it even when they say they don't. Like it's a game or a mission instead of a compassionate, loving action. It can also damage the colon, anus, and cause problems for the woman. The way it is shown in most porn, there is no lube, no warm up, it looks like woman are being harmed, not pleasured.
on 11 Sep 18:35
This is the great assumption of porn ... i.e. that all woman will "take it anywhere" and will always enjoy it. Cr@p.
on 08 Sep 14:48
I almost detest the idea unless my partner is into it then I might consider but even then I don't know.
on 06 Sep 18:13
The trick to this is to ask for it if you want it. If you are a man and like pegging ask your partner if they would be willing to give it a try. If you are a woman and don't want it be sure you say so. Don't go along with something you don't want. Simple honesty and trust goes a long way between partners whether its one or many.
on 16 Aug 00:07
This is bullshit painful and nasty! I won't do it! I won't cum. I feel like I am bleeding/shitting on you.There are so many other tasty sexual endeavors, why the butthole--really? Not for me. YOU FIRST.
on 15 Aug 21:17
The fact there are actually people on here saying anal sex with one man and one woman (not two men) is closer to homosexuality, is silly. Are you sticking your penis in a guy's anus? Nope. Is it your female partner you're wanting to penetrate, either vaginally or anally? Yup, so wanting to make love to your female partner, as a male, makes you gay? Even if your female partner was to "peg" her male partner, or give him a prostate massage (male g-spot) doesn't make him gay, it's still one male one female.
on 15 Aug 11:05
I suffered physical trama from this years ago. So, when engaging a new partner I tell them before the heat of the moment arrives because I know once the cock is on the ears are off. Sometimes I whisper it and sometimes I just have a bold conversation that goes something like this:
Me: I'm totally looking forward to having sex with you but I have just a couple of rules before we start.
1. If you stick something in my ass, I will stick something in yours. Remember, it's a funnel not a tunnel. We are not mining anything back there so stay out or I am liable to hurt you.
2. You can jiz in your condom, a towel, your hand, my back or stomach but don't do it in my face or hair. If it's a blow job I'll signal you if its okay to come in my mouth because sometimes I'm just not in the mood. Don't let a great blow job become a very quick snow blow.
That's about it. If you have any questions, ask! If you're not sure, ask!
on 15 Aug 03:24
I have no desire to try anal sex. I don't even like having my ass lick. Just gross!
on 14 Aug 22:05
Nope...fortunately no guy has ever suggested it.
on 14 Aug 11:36
Men think women enjoy it cause its very sexually stimulating for a man to have anal performed on them. See to milk a man's prostate you have to go through the anus. Its a man's p-spot orgasim.
on 14 Aug 11:26
I have on occasion, liked it. More often than not, I say no, it's ok though, my partner is not that bothered, and we have good and bad sex as and when we want to.
on 13 Aug 23:23
I think K hit the nail on the head: Communicate with each other and be sensationally aware of what is happening during intimacy. Easy to do if you actually care for one another.
As for Anal in general, I have thought about trying with some of the women I have been with but have never done so. It depends on the woman, and depends on the amount of trust and understanding of your partner.
on 11 May 16:31
Never have anal sex cause it is so disgusting，even my girlfriend asked me to try.
on 24 Apr 07:08
'Both of you do' vs 'Both you don't' is quite different than 'One of you does' and 'One of you doesn't'. Wouldn't you agree?
on 14 Apr 22:38
This is my pet peeve with porn. It's all about anal now, and I'm just not interested in anal.
on 12 Apr 10:18
Thanks Lily that's really informative , I had no idea there was a difference.
I have really enjoyed anal in the past with one partner and with another it has been more consistently painful, yet there was an expectation that I would enjoy it and he felt hurt that I didn't. That's the real crap part. Oh and I made the wrong decision too many times, going along with something I didn't want to do because I didn't want him to feel pushed away, or to deal with him sulking, Not a good plan girls. Only served to make our sex life gradually less enjoyable for both of us.
on 02 Apr 02:09
Anal is only painful if done incorrectly, though it can be uncomfortable at first, it can definitely better your sex life if sprinkled in at the right times. I know I hate period sex, but I love making my boy happy and I love orgasms, and anal lets you do both without the mess. However, make sure you both trust one another and be very aware of each sensation and COMMUNICATE. It can be painful if you don't relax and trust one another. Oh, and lube. Lube forever.
on 31 Mar 12:15
I do not do anal sex because its a door step closer to homosexuality. When I am with a woman, I want to enjoy her because She has something that I cant find in a male.
JIN QI WANG
on 29 Mar 04:58
I love it.making love make me happy and know what life is!
on 13 Mar 08:54
I hate this so much... I talk about this with my male friends to and many of them seem to view it as some kind of achievement/end-goal to pressure women into anal sex when they aren't that into the idea. If a woman seems reluctant, don't be a jerk. If you let it go maybe she'll at least have some time to think about it and will consider trying it with you at a later date, but it should be in her own time and of her own free will.
To whoever said this is heteronormative - no it isn't. Men have prostates and women don't, so while some women do like anal sex, it should be understood that gay anal sex is completely different to hetero anal sex, and much more likely to bring pleasure to both parties. This is an important distinction that needs to be drawn.
on 11 Mar 22:36
Hola gente que disfruta del sexo
on 28 Feb 14:19
Anal sex is portrayed so differently than it actually is! Noone in porn shows you that you have to apply excessive amounts of lube, that it can be painful, and that without enema beforehand you are left with a massive mess. Yes, it can be pleasurable, but there's too much fuss before it.
on 23 Feb 14:12
Ermm, never tried it bt i knw its hurting..secondly i fear it wud reduce my interest in normal sex :(
on 19 Feb 16:08
First I rimm her ass and therefore I penetrate her backhole, we love each other !