I've been with an awful lot of female partners who don't seem to be aware of their own preferences and try to "compete" with pornstars, disregarding their own enjoyment. It seems so very sad to have human sexuality regress into the middle ages after our culture has finally put women on equal terms with men in relationships with one another. It's also terribly infuriating for a sexually active male such as myself to constantly have to take a step back and teach a woman how to enjoy herself, so that I may enjoy sleeping with her in turn. Why am I the only person that seems to be bothered by this? Do other men really only care about "getting off" and can call sex in which a female is only responding to male demands instead of her own urges, satisfying? I would say if that's the case, these guys will sadly never know what sex really can be for two loving partners.

• If desirable, find some acceptable and enjoyable sex, while recognizing that exciting and satisfying kinds nearly always take precautions, often planning, sometimes postponements, and sometimes avoidances. Basically it requires communication skills, open self-disclosure with love and respect together, learning with your body, and with play less distracted by obligations. Never a focus on numbers as the criteria of quality satisfaction—how many positions, how many times, how many lovers, etc. Instead, some ongoing emotional work through reading—and discussing in a respectful, sometimes serious, and only then, perhaps, a less inhibited letting go of worry and toward a playful mind, spirit, and body, then recognizing this is still an art in progress never completed. It is much of a sensate, tactile activity where touching, which may be sorely needed, comes alive. With stress and feelings of alienation often being very powerful, it can become a satisfying pleasure done with precautions, yet as extended rote habit, self care and affection for self and others tends to erode. While it may seem that playful sex is a right and should come easily, this thinking is more than ironic for something which continually takes some work in the continual learning and application of it, if quality pleasure is to arrive. Do not be fooled into thinking it is purely a physical act—and never in a game arena. Search for circumstances enabling the most gains through serenity, knowing there are many kinds and degrees of satisfaction, and that good enough can be perfection. A time to laugh is when you suspect you believe the circumstances need no improvement or you yourself have nothing to learn.

porn nowadays lead some men to hope and expect certain things we as woman dont like to do and it leads to breakups it would be nice if porn sites gave small areas that said "this is what you wish would happen do not expect this in real life because your hopes may be utterly crushed you can go back to masterbateing now "

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Pornworld: Women and men are always loud about their pleasure in porn. Penetration must always be rough and fast-paced. All women have orgasms, even with partners they don't know at all. Women and men always enjoy sex with complete strangers with whom they have no intimate/emotional connection whatsoever.

For the lonely, unconfident and self esteem challenged male porn is a daily routine, much like coffee in the morning. Does that mean I associate what I watch in porn with real life expectations? No, because I'm not stupid; I'm just lonely and self deprecating.

Men always have a huge load in the movies.. I heard that is a supplement like "Ropes" that can be taken to give increased production.. is this true?

Real boobs do not stick up straight into the air when a woman is lying on her back. This does not mean her boobs are defective in some way. It means they are hers, not purchased from Mentor. As a side note, nipples do not always get hard enough to hang a cardigan from. This is okay.

Porn depicts sex in a state of wild abandon. At best, this is indeed how sex should be - wild, rough, a rollercoaster ride leaving everybody quivering and panting. Unfortunately most people are not so liberated (including porn pros themselves, who often require drugs to perform so vehemently).

I can't tell you how frustrating it is as a woman of I don't know a dozen or so encounters with men I thought were really great guys, but in bed I had to spend so much time gently and diplomatically re-educating them about women's bodies--so much of it seemed porn-learned. I ask you the masses out there: Is there honestly ANY woman in existence who enjoys her breasts being smacked around! THAT ONE is my least favorite of all. OMFG!

I've been in relationships where the woman owns more porn than I do. & in all reality Porn helped Myself stay monogamous ! If you are not a sexual being such as most academics or career minded people you should be praying to the Porn gods for doing the job for someone you love or say you love ~ that You are not able to do !!!

Bradenton Florida.....on the run. Love Porn.

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I'm 23, and to the people who comment that porn doesn't mess with the minds of youngsters, I'm a living testament that it does. Watching porn as a teen made me feel that sex was unnatural, and that the act was fundamentally degrading one. Not until 22-years-old did I finally understand that sex was about love...or that it even had anything to do with affection. When I first fell in love, I couldn't understand the connection between the things I had seen in porn and the feelings I had for a girl. How can you do something so degrading to someone who is, in your eyes, an Angel put on earth by God himself.

porn is easy to get, love is hard to achieve, porn is strong, love is fragile, porn is addiction, love is dedication, porn is fun, love is nun, porn is wow, love is how, porn is brothel, love is temple, porn is fire, love is care, and porn is my mind love is your mind

porn is hell and love is heaven, both meets at the same point but paths are different.

Porn World: Guys can maintain an erection for 15 or 20 minutes pounding. Real World: Not so much..

After looking through stumble upon I came across an interview which showed the website I desided to read some of the comments! First I'm nineteen and a male and still learning how to treat a women (if I can put it in that kind of context) and I feel that porn does mess up sex that you have in the "Real world"! Like I feel sorry for the women who think porn is the way to keep men keen and that they have to be the ones that have to give?! I'm from Ireland and when you're out clubbing or pubbing you get really drunk and wake up next to a randomer which I find a bit shit over 1: you don't remember the night (Sadface!) and 2: You might be super imbarressed or the other person and leave?! Porn gives out a picture of how you're are supposed to have sex and how the "Moves" all work to make the girl come.....yet sorry for the lads who think they are the shit from using porn a teacher this actually doesn't! Yet if you watched porn with your girlfriend or wife (other way around also ) could actually be fun for role play just to try something new (That isn't turning her blue from lack of air!). I feel like I'm teaching and gone off what I was saying but I just feel that porn is being guidelined as the basics now for sex?! Now that's the end of my ranting good day sirs and maddams ^^!

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I dont know what the term "make love like a porn star" means, really. My man and I enjoy an incredibly enthusiastic sex life and we are not "young" I am 39 he is 42 and we make love almost every day. Its different every time but we are incredibly enthusiastic and skilled in the bedroom together. We are not "porn star" types either. I am a curvy woman and hes a beautiful but 42 year old man with a 42 year old body. But do we go crazy on each other, you bet we do! Oral is almost always a must for both of us and we both enjoy giving and receiving it. We touch each other everywhere and kiss deeply and passionately. Sometimes we have romantic sex were we just cant stop looking at each other and kissing, hugging, touching. Sometimes we are so hot we are on fire and the positions are endless. Has he cum on my face? Yes, we have tried it but not because scummy porn stars do it, because its kinky and we like to try anything and everything together. Mostly we like him cumming inside me. Its the ultimate rush and connection. But yes, he cums on my face, my breasts, in my mouth and on my tummy too. Sometimes even on my back. I think the danger in porn is not the wild ideas it might give people, but the desensitivity it causes in men. They cant get off without more and more graphic displays and without touching themselves instead of being able to make love to a woman. The danger is in the detachment it causes in men between sex and actual women rather than images of breasts and genitals without a face or soul. Its become the fast food of sex and as we know, fast food is addicting. But, for goodness sake, don't judge a couple, a woman or even a man for wanting to cum on various parts of the body because frankly its kind of hot, at least for me.

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Porn World: The only erogenous zones are the mouth, breasts, genitals, and asshole, and all women like being touched on all of them. Real World: Women's bodies vary greatly. Ears, neck and feet can be extraordinarily sensitive. Every woman is different. Even asking where she wants to be touched can be arousing.

Porn World: The only erogenous zones are the mouth, breasts, genitals, and asshole, and all women like being touched on all of them. Real World: Women's bodies vary greatly. Ears, neck and feet can be extraordinarily sensitive. Every woman is different. Even asking where she wants to be touched can be arousing.

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i agree- but its the way it should be 1 out of 100 times at least- for fantasies sake (AS LONG AS BOTH PARTNERS AGREE), because romantic sex ALL the time can get boring as fuck, too.

i totally agree with 'NOT NECESSARILY' every one have their own preferences and the way both partners are comfortable should be preferred.

What about the guy? There is a lot of focus on the girls issues on this site but... ehh yeah. Guys are, in porn movies, expected to perform and get an erection instantly, the real world is nothing like that. We are not machines and we need love to get an

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Sex in the porn world is not even a pale reflection of what sex REALLY is.

i think the stereotypes should be addressed. asian women are not always wild in bed, and white women are not always tame in bed. every woman is different. sure, there maybe be some underlying truth to the stereotype but overall, each woman is different an

Porn world: All women moan all the time during sex Real world: Some people are quiet as a church mouse.

In every example for the real world it says 'some women like this or that, some dont'. Obviously those who like all those things make the porns :o). Dont get the message of this page.

having sex is more important in life..but after married sex its a necessary because sex can make the life in family more important than other...

Oops sorry for responding to the troll. I d also like to say thanks for having this site. Really bins those fantasies the porn industry feeds

Abdullah: Do you feel ashamed about your lustful thoughts, or do you like your code of practice because it keeps you in control ?

I really like it if man touch my whole body and love every cm of my body... when we are taking a lot of time to love eachother and do it veerryy slowly... When the man gives me the feeling of security, loving me and holding me... wooowww :-) so I can rel

this site is doing important work. more ideas should be posted.

The real love is to get married and have sexual relations only with wife/husband. Sex out of marriage is a shameful deed.

Porn World - Blowjobs always feel good and guys never have to ask for her to be careful with her teeth Reality - Sometimes it hurts a lot and it should be okay to ask someone to stop and clarify the situation, without breaking the mood.

as unrealistic as some of the emotions on Porn are, they do give you some really great ideas for new positions or new toys when it is time for you to get down and dirty...

Not all women like being spanked, having their hair pulled or used as a handle bar or slapped around or rough housed in general.

Notthing new....everything is individual choice-----anything new in this website?

Harder and faster is not always better. In most porn, fucking is like an athletic event where you win if you succeed in pounding your partner through the mattress. Many men and women like slow and sensual sex, particularly towards the beginning of love ma

to few toppics to learn a lot. And more detailled knowledge could be introduced

I agree completely with 'Howard Winslow at 2009-02-05 11:37:41:' Do some research, show us some statistics proving that kids/teens really do believe that what they see in porn is real. Only then will I take this website seriously

Sometimes I like to Fuck like a Porn Star.. Sometimes I just wanna make love slow and Long.. Sometimes I wanna taste his cum and sometimes I just wanna watch him masturbate while he watches me... The Key to good Sex and Lovemaking is to Explore!

Thanks god i can say that pretty much of my experiences were much alike porn movies. Not everyone of them, i must say, but the best ones were right there for sure.

I just read all of the cards, and I must say I agree. Most of the real world experiences I have had are nothing like what I see in porn. I do feel women tend to not want to tell the truth about what they do not like though.

Hilarious.

This is one way, a fantasy. And there ARE several types of porn as well, serving all kinds of fantasy. I get the distinct impression this site is managed by a woman......

Porn world- Men have sex for hours without coming until the very end. Real world- Some women like prolong sex with their man running a marathon, others prefer not getting sore so you can do it again tomorrow! How long one should last really depends on h

Howard you need a good slap on the side of the head with a vibrator!

I heard about this web-site through the TEDblog. I had to check it out. Thank you for providing this service to those who need a better perspective on sexuality.

tio, esta es la diferencia entre el porno y el sexo en la realidad XD

This should really be an introduction to school children instead of teaching 'abstinence only stuff'!

so youre saying that girls dont usually like being made to shit into a cup and drink it? and that i should ask first? i think this site may have saved my relationship!

Since sex is a taboo in modern society many parents neglect to teach their kids what sex is and what the best practices are. Those kids will then learn from hardcore porn.

This site is rather ridiculous. I mean, no one legitimately believes the contents of pornography are real. Masturbation is a valid form of sexual expression and pornography is a part of that. It is accepted by almost anyone who views pornography that it

Howard, I wonder how old you are? Thing is, maybe you know that porn is not what real sex is like, but much younger people, who have easy access to porn and not so easy access to anyone who is going to teach them what sex/love is, might not. I think it

And that pretty much sums it up.

This is the way someone imagined sex, then convinced people to do it on camera. Well, this can go both ways I guess. :)

~What you see here is the 30-second trailer for what is not the best porn movie ever made, but the only good porn movie ever made.~ http://reversecowgirlblog.blogspot.com/2009/01/whats-best-porn-movie-ever-made.html

The only sex talk I ever got from my mother was that porn is not real life. In that one sentence, I learned all I ever needed to know.

Fucking is fucking, making love is making love.